We do not see things as they are, we see them as we are. -Anais Nin
In this episode, StoicMom revisits her recent article “Why I’m no longer gender critical” to answer questions and concerns that she has abandoned the cause or switched over to the affirming camp. She and Regina talk about becoming aware of the water we swim in and how it shapes our narrative, and choosing carefully what we listen to and focus on. They discuss how our resistance to what is can, unintentionally and unconsciously, create a self-fulfilling prophecy that produces the very circumstance we want to avoid. Regina recounts a recent personal example of switching the narrative on a painful story. StoicMom explains how we grow bigger than our pain and grief.
Other topics discussed include the protective aspects of anger and fear, how certainty can reduce understanding and how personal responsibility is key to having agency in parenting and in our own personal evolution.
“How do we take the oxygen out of the fire of our fear?” StoicMom
“What you focus on expands, What you resist, persists. And the way we behave in that resistance reinforces what's happening. Reinforces the dynamic and makes it stronger.” StoicMom
Listen to Attachment Matters here.
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