I often hear the word "maladaptive" applied to our children's choices, but I think's it can be really helpful to refrain from this judgment. They're doing the best they can and this is the water they're swimming in. The more neutrally we can hold this, the less compelled we are to control it.
Having the perspective that our children's choices seem adaptive to them is always helpful.
Yes, I agree!
I often hear the word "maladaptive" applied to our children's choices, but I think's it can be really helpful to refrain from this judgment. They're doing the best they can and this is the water they're swimming in. The more neutrally we can hold this, the less compelled we are to control it.