I lost track of who was talking, Joy or StoicMom. You might want to say your name once in a while -- and certainly at the beginning.
I find myself wondering if you and your son were TOO close, and that might have contributed to an identity crisis on his part. It also sounds like he might be gay, and that transitioning feels more legitimate to him than just coming out as gay. If you are a devout Christian, he might worry you will disapprove of him as a gay man. Perhaps your son believed he might become even closer to you if he became a woman.
I'm just throwing out ideas.
If your son comes "back" to you, it will be when he realizes that transitioning will get him nothing, because he'll be a fake woman. It is a pretense. There is always (well, usually) a point at which the transitioning person realizes he has turned himself into something fake -- i.e., that transitioning isn't really possible, that it is a pretense. If your son has an honest core, that may help him to "come back" to you.
It may be helpful to you to know that we are all immortal (a study of near-death experiences provides conclusive evidence of that). We live enough lives (reincarnation is also a reality) that we can afford to lose some of them to mistakes. If your son never comes back to you, he may have decided to turn this life over to the transition "experiment". It's also possible that there might be aspects of the experiment that satisfy something inside of him, so it might not be a mistake after all.
P.S. God has hopes for us, not plans. The "plans" people mean are the plans we make for ourselves at an unconscious level. God granted us our freedom and self-determination a long time ago. That doesn't mean we are on our own -- we aren't. God's gift to us is immortality and as many "new beginnings" as we need for our spiritual and emotional growth.
I lost track of who was talking, Joy or StoicMom. You might want to say your name once in a while -- and certainly at the beginning.
I find myself wondering if you and your son were TOO close, and that might have contributed to an identity crisis on his part. It also sounds like he might be gay, and that transitioning feels more legitimate to him than just coming out as gay. If you are a devout Christian, he might worry you will disapprove of him as a gay man. Perhaps your son believed he might become even closer to you if he became a woman.
I'm just throwing out ideas.
If your son comes "back" to you, it will be when he realizes that transitioning will get him nothing, because he'll be a fake woman. It is a pretense. There is always (well, usually) a point at which the transitioning person realizes he has turned himself into something fake -- i.e., that transitioning isn't really possible, that it is a pretense. If your son has an honest core, that may help him to "come back" to you.
It may be helpful to you to know that we are all immortal (a study of near-death experiences provides conclusive evidence of that). We live enough lives (reincarnation is also a reality) that we can afford to lose some of them to mistakes. If your son never comes back to you, he may have decided to turn this life over to the transition "experiment". It's also possible that there might be aspects of the experiment that satisfy something inside of him, so it might not be a mistake after all.
P.S. God has hopes for us, not plans. The "plans" people mean are the plans we make for ourselves at an unconscious level. God granted us our freedom and self-determination a long time ago. That doesn't mean we are on our own -- we aren't. God's gift to us is immortality and as many "new beginnings" as we need for our spiritual and emotional growth.